"Battle Dress Apron"
2008
Textiles, Dishwashing Gloves, Steel Wool, and Sponge
Photo by Brynn Anderson
Statement:
As a spouse or child of an active, Guard or Reserve Service member, who is just coming home or is arriving soon, you are probably both excited and nervous about the homecoming. Even if you have been through a mobilization/deployment before, this one has been different because of the increased stressors of the time. Regardless of your experience and Service member’s assignment, you will have a period of natural adjustment. You may find this tip sheet helpful in ensuring a successful homecoming and readjustment.
What to Expect When the Service member Comes Home:
1.) You have become more confident and independent and your spouse has changed too. Expect things to be different.
2.) It is normal to feel nervous and anxious about the homecoming. You may wonder whether your spouse will: “Like the way I look?” “Like what I’ve done with the house?” “Be proud of me for how I’ve handled things?” “Still need me?” “Still love me?”
3.) Reassure your spouse that they are needed, even though you’ve coped during the deployment. Talk about keeping some of the independence you’ve developed. It’s best not to “dump” all the chores or only the ones you dislike back on your spouse.
Resource for above information:
http://www.pcusa.org/peacemaki
“Coming Home” A Guide for Service Members Returning From Mobilization/Deployment|
As a spouse or child of an active, Guard or Reserve Service member, who is just coming home or is arriving soon, you are probably both excited and nervous about the homecoming. Even if you have been through a mobilization/deployment before, this one has been different because of the increased stressors of the time. Regardless of your experience and Service member’s assignment, you will have a period of natural adjustment. You may find this tip sheet helpful in ensuring a successful homecoming and readjustment.
What to Expect When the Service member Comes Home:
1.) You have become more confident and independent and your spouse has changed too. Expect things to be different.
2.) It is normal to feel nervous and anxious about the homecoming. You may wonder whether your spouse will: “Like the way I look?” “Like what I’ve done with the house?” “Be proud of me for how I’ve handled things?” “Still need me?” “Still love me?”
3.) Reassure your spouse that they are needed, even though you’ve coped during the deployment. Talk about keeping some of the independence you’ve developed. It’s best not to “dump” all the chores or only the ones you dislike back on your spouse.
Resource for above information:
http://www.pcusa.org/peacemaki
“Coming Home” A Guide for Service Members Returning From Mobilization/Deployment|
